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Premature
Ejaculation
A very embarrassing sexual dysfunction for men is premature
ejaculation. It is not uncommon and it is a dilemma that can be
overcome.
A man suffering from premature ejaculation is a person who on a
regular basis ejaculates before he and his partner are satisfied.
In other words, sexual intercourse is disappointing for the woman
and even the man (who wishes he could have lasted longer). These
men experience ejaculation continence and have not learned to
recognize the pre-cursor sensations to ejaculation.
An adult male should have relative control over the timing of
when he lets himself ejaculate. Yet, as a human, there are times
when even the man with the best control finds himself extremely
sexually aroused and ejaculates before he ideally would like to.
It happens and there is nothing wrong with that. Premature
ejaculation is problematic when the loss of control happens
frequently enough to impair sexual pleasure with a partner.
Recognizing the pre-cursory signs and sensations for ejaculation
are critical to the rectification of premature ejaculation.
Premature Ejactulation Cure
Premature Ejaculation Exercises
The exercises center around pleasuring the male, as he is the one
with problem being solved. Women will get a lot of pleasure in
the long run, as they will be able to be better satisfied because
their partner's erection will be maintained. Furthermore, he will
have more confident in bed, increasing the sexual energy. Do
note, since the exercises are male focused, giving the other
partner manual, oral, vaginal & anal stimulation before,
during or after each exercise In the beginning the two of you may
be so excited to begin that this feels like a non-issue. Keep
communicating clearly, and letting each other know of your needs.
Squeeze Technique
Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, withdraw fully
or partially and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your
thumb and index finger around it. Then apply firm pressure, focus
on the urethra (the tube running along the underside of the penis).
This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response.
Be sure to apply pressure before you start ejaculating, once you
start its too late! This technique can also be applied just below
the head of the penis.
To get a good understanding of how this technique works you might
want to try it out while you are masturbating. When you feel your
climax approaching, squeeze the base of your penis and try to
stop yourself. Once you are comfortable with how and where to
squeeze the penis, then move on to attempting it during sexual
intercourse.
Stop & Start Technique
First Stage: the couple should begin getting intimate, when the
"patient's" penis becomes erect, the partner should
stimulate him either through a hand job. When ejaculation is
near, tell the partner to stop, and let the sexual excitement
decrease. Repeat this five or so times. After about three to five
nights of having controlled the orgasm by telling the partner to
stop, you will have acheived the first stage of controlling your
ejaculation.
Second Stage: repeat stage one, but use lubrication. First start
by having the partner use their hand, then move up to oral
stimulation. Success is the same as above, three to five nights
of having said stop before ejaculating during training.
Third stage: consists of gaining control during intercourse. The
partner should be in the top position and the man on bottom. He
should guide the partner's thrusting movements with his hands on
the partner;s hips. Again, when he comes close to having an
orgasm, he says stop. Success is the same as above, three to five
nights of having said stop before ejaculating during training.
For most couples to accomplish the tasks takes two to six weeks.
Once a substantial amount of gain has been made, and the above
program is complete, continue to concentrate on controlling the
orgasm. With time, the problem should fade away from existence.
Another example of the same process is above is the scale system.
Practice getting to different levels of the scale to help him
overcome the problem. It works as above, except you can stop at
different levels, for example for the first week, stop at 50,
then move to 75, etc.... This system is great for communicating
exactly where you are in your level of excitement. Below is an
example of a scale, but since everyone has different preferences,
we strongly suggest that you and your partner create your own
scale.
Zero = a limp penis
Five = an erect penis with minimal sexual thoughts
Ten = ears being nibbled
Fifteen = reading sexy stories together
Twenty = breast stimulation
Forty = slow penal stimulation
Fifty = slow oral stimulation of your penis
Eighty = medium paced penal-vaginal intercourse
Ninety-nine = point of no return
One Hundred = orgasm
Regular Masturbation
A great method for releasing sexual tension and boosting sexual
stamina is by simply masturbating regularly. Masturbation is very
healthy for both your sexual organs and your mental well-being.
Masturbating an hour or two before intercourse can greatly
increase your stamina during intercourse. Personal Sex Contacts
We know you’ve been waiting for yet another installment
of the pros and cons ofdifferent sex positions. For those of you who
have missed out on some of the other articles in this series, here’s
what you have been missing.
The first article delved into the pros and cons of the
69 position; the second article gave tips on the advantages and disadvantages of the female superior position.
The
third article reviewed the missionary position; the fourth article
provided readers with what’s good and bad about the doggie style
position, and the fifth article, you learned about the pros and cons of
the spooning position.
In this article, you will learn a lot about oral sex positions,
including the pros and cons of different oral positions. People tend to
forget how creative they can be while engaging in oral sex and that’s
why we are here to help you learn more about how to make oral sex more
exciting for both of you.
Pros And Cons Of The 69
Because
the 69 position was covered in a previous article in this series, this
will be short. The best part about the 69 position is that you and your
partner are pleasuring each other simultaneously which is great any
time, and it makes this position unique among oral sex positions.As for cons, the position can be a bit akward because of the angle you have to set yourself in, especially
if there is a height differential between the two partners.
Pros And Cons Of The Standing Blow Job Position
Okay, it might not be technically called the “standing blow job
position” but you get the idea – the man is standing and the woman is
either sitting or kneeling on her knees.
This
position is great for her to have easy access to the entire package and
she will feel quite comfortable in this position because she will be
mouth level with his penis instead of trying to bend over it (if he was
lying flat on his back), straining her neck.
Plus,
since guys also enjoy it when their partners play with their packages
while giving them head, this position is good for facilitating that
since it “frees” up everything and makes it easy to access.
Another
reason that this position is popular with guys is because it’s a common
porn movie position – the guy is standing while the woman is kneeling
with her mouth on his penis. So, for guys that have been fantasizing
about getting in on the action that their favorite porn stars made
famous, then here’s a good way to start.
There
aren’t really any cons of this position except for the fact that only
the man is being pleasured in this position, unlike the 69 position
where everyone’s happy.
Pros And Cons Of Rimming
Rimming, in case you don’t know, refers to oral to anal sexual
stimulation – that is, one partner licks and sucks the other’s anus.
This is usually performed in one of two ways – either one partner is on
all fours with the other partner behind them performing anal oral sex,
or one partner is on their back with their legs in the air and their
partner is bent over them performing anal oral sex.
Either
way, if you hadn’t even heard of rimming before this, then you might
want to talk about it before initiating this with your partner. Because
it involves anal stimulation, not everyone will be keen on trying this
out. But, for the more adventurous folks, rimming can be very
stimulating and exciting for both partners.
The
pros of rimming are simple – it stimulates an area that is often
ignored and that area is full of nerve endings that can make for very
exciting stimulation. The cons, on the other hand, are more
significant.
People are wary of this position
because it involves anal stimulation with one’s mouth. Because there
can be bacteria and other germs in the area, this can really act as a
turn off for many people. In order to combat this factor, you should
simply make sure your partner washes thoroughly before engaging in this
activity.
For example, start the night out by bathing each other and then proceed to oral sex and rimming.
Pros And Cons Of Deep Throat Positions
There are a couple of different ways to achieve deep penetration during
oral sex. In one position, the woman lies on her back with her head
hanging over the edge of the bed and the man stands or crouches to
insert himself into her mouth.
In
this position, he controls the speed and depth of the movement which
can be very good for him but requires careful planning for her sake or
she might end up gagging and choking.
In
another position, the woman lies on her back and the man straddles her
as though they were about to have sex in the missionary position. He
then moves up her body so that he can insert himself into her mouth.
Again, he will control the speed and depth of movement here, so be
careful before you choke her Road Head
“Road head” is the slang term for a man receiving head while he’s
driving a vehicle. The cons of this position are obvious – this might
cause an accident because of the lack of concentration the guy will end
up paying to his driving.
Plus,
it’s an awkward position in most vehicles, so it may be uncomfortable
for her. The pros? Well, I guess he’ll be happy anytime he’s getting
head, right?
Oral Sex Variety
Most sex positions focus on the actual act of sex and not oral sex
which is a shame because with a few small changes, oral sex positions
can be just as exciting as other sex positions. In order to figure out
which ones work best for you, try a few different angles and positions.
You will soon learn which ones work and which ones are best left to the
porn actors.
Tip #1: Since what
you eat and drink hours before sex strongly affects the way you
taste, try to keep your diet somewhat bland. Alcohol, garlic,
saturated fats, soy sauce and spicy foods give your secretions a
bitter taste. Less spicy foods give you a more neutral taste and
sugary foods will leave a sweet memory on the tongue.
Tip #2: Use birth control. Sex is much more enjoyable when any
anxieties about pregnancy or contracting a sexually transmitted
disease is put to rest.
Tip #3: Next time you suffer from a headache or bad PMS, don’t
avoid sex. Studies have proven that the release of endorphins is
a powerful painkiller.
Tip #4: Don’t let condoms interrupt your sexual extravaganza.
Make putting the condom part of foreplay. If you want to put it
on your partner, try holding it very gently in your mouth, with
the opening facing out. Then, use your lips and tongue to gently
roll it down your lover’s penis. Just make sure you cover
your teeth with your lips so you don’t break the latex.
Tip#5: If you don’t want to or can’t use your mouth to
put the condom on then still make the experience exciting;
masturbate yourself for your lover to watch; lick and kiss his
nipples; tell him how badly you want him to fuck you. Just don’t
let all foreplay come to a screeching halt because it’s
something that has to be done.
Tip #6: Emptying your bladder makes it easier to stimulate your g-spot.
Tip #7: Plan a trip to the amusement park. The surge of
adrenaline and endorphins make us feel more lusty.
Tip #8: Give your lover a deep tonsil-touching kiss, at a time
when sex is not possible. This allows both of your juices to get
flowing and helps you anticipate your next sexual encounter.
Tip #9: During foreplay and sex, look into your lover’s eyes
as you are satisfying him/her.
Tip #10: When performing cunnilingus on your woman, tell her how
deliciously sweet she tastes. Same applies when performing
fellatio on your man, tell him how delicious his juices taste and
how much you love his hard hot cock in your mouth. For more great
tips on cunnilingus, pick up a copy of the Clitoral Kiss and How
to Be a Great Lover for great tips on fellatio and male manual
stimulation.
Tip #11: Give each other a tongue bath. Start from the fingertips
and lick every inch of each other’s bodies, leaving not a
single patch untouched.
Tip #12: Next time you perform fellatio, take a sip of hot tea
then wrap your mouth around his penis. And ask him to do the same
for you. A really warm mouth, will make you both melt with
pleasure.
Tip #13: Reorganize your bedroom for a more relaxing atmosphere.
Remove all work related and stress related items. Keep only
things that soothe you in there. This will not only make your
room a more relaxing place for sex, but it has also been known to
help you sleep better too.
Tip #14: Although sex in the bath, is a wonderfully sensual
activity, it can actually dry out your juices, so next time add a
few drops of oil to the water to keep things more lubricated.
Tip #15: By yourself a large blowup kiddies pool. Get yourself a
couple of bottles of mineral oil, pour them onto the bottom of
pool. Get your favorite sex toys. Get naked and get into the pool
with your lover for an afternoon or evening full of well
lubricated pleasure. Mineral oil is the best lubricant, it never
dries up, so you don’t have to worry about things drying out.
Important Note: If you plan to use latex barriers during this
sexual encounter, keep in mind that mineral oil is not latex
friendly. Free adult dating
The most common
misconception about fingering, is that the giver assumes the
"in-out" action is pleasurable. The most pleasant
sensation is derived from applying pressure to the vaginal walls;
particularly the G-spot. Ask any woman if she'd prefer her lover
to have a moderately thick cock, or a long thin one. 99.9% of the
time, she'll opt for Stubby. (If we wanted our cervix poked, we'd
go to the gyno.)
In fact, the in-out motion of a finger can become more irritating
than anything. The vaginal lips are pretty sensitive, and repeat
friction begins to chafe. Yes, really.
Of course, fingering should occur after sufficient foreplay.
There's nothing worse than some moron shoving his pointer finger
up your dry pussy and poking you into submission. So guys, when
your hands wander between her legs and you realize that there's
more moisture in the Sahara, take the hint.
Ok! She's wet! She's squirming! What now??
The typical woman prefers to be penetrated with 2 fingers. One is
not enough (unless she is a virgin, or otherwise very tiny down
there) and three is too much. Of course, use your discretion and
listen to her response. You should be able to tell the difference
between an uncomfortable-moan and a pleasure-moan. And if you
cant, you should not be having sex.
Slide your fingers slowly between her lips, and let yourself
explore a little bit to find your bearings. If she is aroused,
you should be able to feel a rough, spongy spot on the roof of
her vaginal wall. Push on it. (Yes) You should be moving your
fingers in a "come here" type of motion. Check your
partners response to different pressures, and adjust to what
makes her squeal.
Inexperienced women might relate this new sensation to having to
pee. Reassure her that she wont, unless of course she guzzled a
12 pack before you got intimate.
Do not bother moving your finger in and out to simulate sex. She
will most likely be in absolute erotic bliss just by having her g-spot
pressed. Change the pace of the 'pressing' and note her reaction.
Does she want it fast and hard or slow and easy? If you cant
tell, ask her. We'd prefer to hear our lover say, "How do
you want it, baby?" than lay there unsatisfied and
frustrated. Think about hand jobs and how annoying it is when
you're being stroked slowly and delicately when you really want
to be pumped like a SuperSoaker. See my point?
If you really want to get fancy, place your thumb on her clit
while you press her g-spot. Even just letting it rest there feels
good. The clit is that little pink bump at the top of her pussy.
Believe it or not, that would have turned into a penis had she a
Y-chromosome.
Your girl wont cum from this, but who cares? Most of the other
women I've talked to agree with me when I say the shocking "flickers"
of intense pleasure they experience are better than an orgasm
anyway. The only problem is that there is no release at the end.
But really, it's sexy, erotic and safe...and a great prelude to
other activities that CAN bring her to orgasm, if that's what she
craves...
Clitroal Stimulation
Of course some young women enjoy being “fingered” but
generally speaking, many females do not get an incredible amount
of pleasure from penetration (putting a finger inside the vagina).
We are not sure exactly what your partner would enjoy but we
would guess that she would be more pleasured if you stimulated (messaged
and rubbed) her clitoris since the majority of women orgasm from
stimulation of the clitoris.
There are many books and pictures that illustrate exactly where
the clitoris is located. If she was on her back with her legs
spread her clitoris would be between her legs at the “top”
where her labia meet in what looks like a small “hood.”
There is a technique where you could slide your finger over her
clitoris as you insert it into her vagina. On the
howtohavegoodsex website there are some Sex Tips about the
clitoris and orgasm that may be able to help you out.
If you feel comfortable you may ask her to let you watch her
masturbate or masturbate together so that you may observe what
she enjoys and how she “gets off.” The best way to know
how to pleasure someone is to ask. If you can not talk about the
things that you are doing with her you may not be ready to do
those things. Communication is always an incredibly important
component of any relationship.
In research we have seen that the vast majority of people are
very relieved when their partners bring up sexual histories and
issues around sexuality (89% report they would be glad if their
partner brought the subject up; 87% said they would feel
respected; 86% reported they would feel relieved; and 84%
reported they would feel cared for). In other words – most
people want to talk about sexual issues with their partner but
are hoping that the other person brings it up!
Since the majority of women are unable to achieve orgasm solely
with vaginal stimulation (for instance, in penis-vagina
intercourse), understanding the clitoris is often the key to
orgasm and sexual satisfaction in women of all sexual
orientations.
Every woman likes different types of clitoral stimulation, and
the only way to determine what you or your female partner enjoys
is to experiment. If your partner is female, ask her what she
enjoys. However, she might not know yet, so this is a great
opportunity to experiment.
Some women like direct stimulation: touching the clitoris with
your finger, tongue, or a vibrator. Some women only like indirect
stimulation: touching the area around the clitoris or touching
the clitoris covered by the clitoral hood, a small bit of flesh
comparable to a man's penis foreskin.
Some women like a light touch. Some women like a firmer touch.
Some women like slow clitoral stimulation. Some women like very
fast clitoral stimulation in the form of fast tongue licks or the
fast vibrations of a vibrator. Some women like additional vaginal
stimulation, but others find it irritating and prefer focusing on
the clitoris. Some like to start slow and increase speed when
approaching orgasm. There are infinite variations that women
enjoy, so try lots of techniques.
If you are playing with your partner's clitoris, ask her what she
likes and be prepared to listen to what she says. It's a very
sensitive area, so if she says that she needs you to press less
firmly or go slower, do what she says and make her very happy ...
or else it may cause pain. In time, with experimentation and
communication, you will learn how to make her very very happy.
Masturbation Tips for Women
A: Masturbation is just touching yourself in any way that feels
good, and since everybody's a little different, you must
experiment to know what feels good for you. However, we can still
recommend some common methods.
You've probably noticed yourself getting hot at certain times
when you weren't trying. What was going on right before that
happened? Maybe you were doing some physical movement, and your
body just felt good and healthy. Notice the sensitive parts of
your body?
Your nipples may have liked the way your blouse or the sheets of
your bed rub against them. Cotton panties might feel better
rubbing against your clitoris than panties made of synthetic
blends.
What about your moods? Many people I know like to masturbate as a
way of relieving tension, so they often get hot when they're
feeling anxious, or have an excess of energy. On the other hand,
other people often get hot when they're relaxed and feeling good.
Take a hand mirror, and examine your genitals. Notice your folds
of skin, your outer and inner labia, and up at the top, your
clitoral hood. Interesting stuff, yes?
Pull back your clitoral hood and check out your clitoris. Now,
whenever you feel like the moment is right, lick your fingers and
start exploring. What feels yummy?
A lot of people ask us if direct clitoral stimulation is a good
or bad thing. Many women find that at first you'll prefer
indirect stimulation, and then as you get hotter, may or may not
enjoy direct stimulation. The only way to know is to try it out.
Start just exploring the lips and folds of skin, then see what
happens when you apply moving pressure up and down the channels
on either side of your clitoral hood. Now stroke your clitoral
hood, putting pressure on it to indirectly stimulate your
clitoris.
Is your vagina producing its own lubricant yet? If not, you might
either lick your fingers or apply some lube (You can buy
commercial lubricant any pharmacy near the condoms).
If your vagina producing its own lubricant yet, taste your
fingers. How does your natural lubricant taste? Does it make you
hot to taste it or not?
What would happen if you stopped focusing on your genitals and
started rubbing your nipples now? This is especially a good idea
if you're feeling over stimulated at any point. What about your
toes or your thighs or your lips?
And don't forget your butt! Your anal opening has lots of nerve
endings and is very sensitive. Lots of people like being
stimulated here, but use some caution -- you can take your
fingers out of your pussy and insert them in your anus, but you
can't take your fingers out of your anus and them insert them in
your pussy! You'll get a yeast infection or urinary tract
infection (UTI) if you do. The reason is, there all kinds of
bacteria that's normally in your butt that shouldn't get into
your vagina. Some folks will therefore put a condom, a "finger
cot" (a finger condom), or latex gloves on their fingers
before their anal stimulation, and then take it off before their
vaginal stimulation with that hand. Or, use one hand for your
butt and one hand for your vagina, as long as you don't confuse
them...or touch your hands together.
If you're like most women, you'll eventually want to bring your
attention back to your vagina as you find yourself becoming very
aroused. You'll get into a rhythm that feels really good, and
notice that a certain pressure, at a certain angle, on a certain
set of specific points on your pussy produce the exact feeling
you like best. Take your time and feel the energy rise in your
body.
Are you building an expectation to cum now? Don't. Build an
expectation of feeling good. You're learning now, and may or may
not have your "big O" (orgasm) this time. And focusing
on that specific goal can distract from your pleasure and make
you inappropriately feel like a failure if you miss that goal.
Practice makes perfect, and the first time or the fifth time or
the twentieth time you do this you'll probably cum. After that,
your goal will be to replicate the experience by working your
body the same way. After you do that, try making yourself cum by
working your body a different way.
Don't forget toys! Many women like to insert other objects into
their pussies or use vibrators to make themselves feel great. You
can buy dildos (roughly penis-shaped objects to insert inside you)
of various shapes and sizes, and some of them vibrate as well.
Also very popular is the non-inserting kind of powerful vibrator
found at many non-sex stores. For instance, the Hitachi Magic
Wand is a popular "external" vibrator used by women all
over the world. Note that plug-in vibrators tend to be more
powerful vibration...and more reliably built...than battery-powered
vibrators.
Soon you'll be ready to teach your partner the yummy new tricks
you've learned! But remember this is just the beginning! It takes
years of patience, hard work and study, so practice, practice,
practice!
How do you perform oral sex on a woman?
A: With enthusiasm! Seriously, enthusiasm is one of the most
important components here, and I'll list them all one by one.
1) Basic anatomy. If you were to hold your hands together, as if
in prayer, you'd have a good model of a woman's genitals. Your
thumbs would represent the vaginal opening and, right where the
tips of your thumbs are, that's where you'd find the clitoris
hidden under the clitoral hood.
2) General Pleasures. Now that you have the basic anatomy (and
many women need the anatomy lesson as much as men), here are some
general guidelines about what many women like.
While the clitoris is the point of exquisite ecstasy for many
women, most don't seem to want you to dive right for it. Teasing
is often the most enjoyable option. You may wish to start out
gently kissing her inner thighs, and continue your explorations
from there slowly toward the center of her sexual universe. Once
near the vaginal opening, many women appreciate some licking in
similar to French kissing.
Licks should be soft and yet firm at the same time. Any
explorations you make in this realm should be gentle, so as not
to make your lover recoil, yet firm enough to show your unique
personality.
3) Clitoris Attention. Continuing your exploration northward, you
will find yourself at the clitoris, and here is where you will
find many of the unique preferences in your individual lovers.
Some women will now find that direct stimulation of her clitoris
is now nirvana. Others will find this too much and prefer
indirect stimulation of the clitoris. You can accomplish this by
stroking your tongue through the channels on either side of her
clitoral hood, applying pressure through the hood and onto the
clitoris. Still other women will prefer you to suck on the
clitoral hood for stimulation and, as you might imagine, many
women prefer a combination of all the above techniques.
4) Communication. Communication is often the beginning and the
end of a successfull sexual relationship, and that includes oral
sex. Selecting the correct technique is simply a matter of
getting feedback from your partner. This can be difficult
sometimes because some women don't know what feels good, and some
of them find it awkward to talk about. It's always good to use
your knowledge of your partner to know when and how to request
this feedback.
This feedback can come in various other ways also...
For instance, if you follow the techniques listed above, you may
find your lover digging her fingernails into your scalp wantonly
and begging for more. This is excellent feedback. In this case,
you might choose to wait until after your lovemaking and then at
some point ask, "So, what did you like about that?"
Or you may also request feedback as you go along. For instance,
you can tease a woman, occasionally slowing (or stopping) and
mischievously ask her for what she wants as you're playing. This
might be useful for women who are not good at communicating.
If you partner wants to give feedback but has difficulty being
verbal during sex, you can beg your partner to make "good
happy moaning sex sounds" when she feels something
particularly good. That way you can just experiment and then
follow where the sounds lead you.
5) Safer Sex. This is often controversial when discussing
cunnilingus (eating pussy). It is certainly possible to get a
sexually transmitted disease (STD) through unprotected
cunnilingus, but it is less dangerous than fellatio (oral sex on
a guy). For instance, if you were trying to become HIV positive,
and solely used cunnilingus to reach your goal, you'd probably go
your whole life without success. But there are other diseases
like herpes and gonorrhea that you might catch.
So the reason we say "Safer Sex", is to recognize that
there is no clear dividing line between "safe" and
"unsafe" acts. Rather, there is a continuum, with
extremely safe things at one end, such as fantasy, and extremely
unsafe things at the other, such as blood play and unprotected
penis/anus sex.
It is therefore a matter for every sexual person to make an
informed decision as to where along this continuum to to draw his
or her personal line. In other words, before you have sex, you
and your partner should decide, "We will be very safe in
these areas, and not really worry too much about those areas."
If you decide to practice safer sex with cunnilingus, here's what
you do: ignore the small specially-designed-for-cunnilingus
dental dams. Instead, either buy the larger latex sheets
available for this purpose in some larger sex stores, or get some
plastic food wrap (such as Saran Wrap) and tear off a long sheet.
Put some water based lube on your fingers, rub it around in your
hand to warm it up, then apply it to your partner's pussy. Next,
wrap the plastic wrap lengthwise between her legs. For instance,
if she's on her back, put one end under her butt and wrap it up
over her pussy and onto her tummy. Pussy licking can be great
this way if you can get used to the sound of the plastic wrap.
Some Facts on Female Orgasm
Let's face it, ladies — good things really do come to those
who wait. Think about that rich, tasty dessert that wraps up a
good meal. Or the explosive grand finale at the end of the
fireworks show on the Fourth of July.
Well, there's another type of happy ending: the female orgasm.
Also called "coming," climaxing, or having a "big
O," an orgasm is often the pleasurable climax during sexual
activity.
What is an orgasm? It's defined as the peak of sexual arousal
when all the muscles that were tightened during sexual arousal
relax, causing a very pleasurable feeling that may involve the
whole body. During orgasm, many women's heart rates skyrocket,
their breathing quickens, and their blood pressure rates
increase; muscles throughout their bodies spasm, but mostly those
in the vagina, uterus, anus, and pelvic floor.
Sound dangerous? It isn't. In fact, most women who have had an
orgasm will tell you that it's quite nice.
To put it mildly, orgasms feel good. During orgasm, chemicals
called endorphins are released into the bloodstream. They cause
pleasant sensations to ripple through the body, but they also
make many women feel happy, giddy, flushed, warm, or sleepy.
So, how do women have orgasms?
For starters, almost any type of sexual stimulation can lead to
orgasm. A woman can have an orgasm through intercourse, oral sex,
or anal sex; manual stimulation of the vulva by her partner; body
rubbing ("dry humping"); or masturbation. Some women
can even have orgasms just by touching their breasts or by
fantasizing about sex!
For many women, the contact has to be much more direct —
right on the genitals — and in a regular, rhythmic pattern.
Stimulation of two major parts of the genitals can cause a woman
to have an orgasm: the clitoris (which is a part of the vulva)
and the vagina. A woman can have an orgasm through stimulation of
just her clitoris, just her vagina, or both. But most women have
orgasms through stimulation of the clitoris.
Although some researchers believe there is just one type of
female orgasm, others believe that stimulation of these two parts
of the genitals can cause different types of orgasm. During a
clitoral orgasm, the vagina becomes longer; it causes a pocket to
be formed beneath the uterus. During a vaginal orgasm, the uterus
drops lower and shortens the vagina. Stimulation of both the
vagina and clitoris can cause a blended orgasm, the third type of
orgasm. All these orgasms may feel different from each other.
Here's some more information about vaginal orgasms: there is a
particular place inside the vagina called the G-spot (short for
the Grafenberg spot, named after the researcher who "discovered"
it), a small bunch of nerves, about the size of a quarter, that's
located about an inch or two inside the vagina on the side
closest to the navel. It can become extremely sensitive during
sex play. And the G-spot can swell, which may make it easier to
find.
Sometimes during stimulation of the G-spot, a clear fluid will
spurt out of the urethra. In some women, the fluid is similar to
urine — but it's not urine. But in others, the fluid is
similar to that produced by the prostate gland in men that makes
up the liquid portion of semen. Yes, it's true — about 10
percent of women can actually ejaculate!
Most women will have one orgasm, and then they'll need to take a
long break — stop or reduce sex play — before the next
one. But some women can have several in a row — they can
have multiple orgasms.
Many women — about one out of three — have trouble
reaching orgasm when having sex with a partner. Most women
experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than
through vaginal penetration. So if a woman is having difficulty
reaching orgasm, she may want to try clitoral stimulation during,
before, or after vaginal intercourse and oral sex to have an
orgasm. Keep in mind, every woman's body responds differently to
various kinds of sex play. Each woman has different preferences
for the ways in which her clitoris is stimulated.
Most women who reach orgasm with a partner have also experienced
an orgasm from masturbation. Women who have never had an orgasm
may want to try to masturbate and learn what pleases them. It may
take some time, but practice makes perfect.
So, now that you're an expert on orgasms, spread the word. The
more women and their partners know about orgasms, the easier it
will be to have one. Enjoy! Free Adult Dating
Items needed:
- Comfortable area: Bed / Floor / Table. Something were both of
you can climb onto.
- Oils: Preferably something smooth and silky. My personal
favorite is Baby Oil.
- Towels & Warm Water: To clean up after you finish.
- Clean sheets: One for under, and one to cover your partner.
- Soft tunes: Nothing overly erotic, simply something soothing.
First and foremost:
Make your partner comfortable. This means ask them to remove
their clothes. If they wish, you may do the same, but please
remember that this is a massage session and not a sexual
encounter.
The second rule of the massage:
As stated above, this is a massage, therefore you must avoid the
obvious sexual body parts. No rubbing her breasts, nipples or
pubic areas.
The order of the massage:
This is an important part of the massage. Keep a general order on
how you wish to perform the massage. By doing so, you know where
you have massaged and where you are going next. If you perform
massages often, you may want to vary the order, this way your
partner will not be expecting your touch in certain areas each
and every time.
This is my order, please feel free to use them at your discretion:
I usually start with my partner on her stomach, covering her with
the sheet, leaving her shoulders exposed. Always remember to
never remove both your hands from your partner’s body.
Always keep some contact with them.
- Temples: I always start at the temples, the source of all
tension. I gently stroke in circular motions, applying a soft
touch. Going clockwise, then counter clockwise, you can relieve
most of her tension in only a few minutes.
- Neck: Rubbing her neck with both hands, one on each side
starting at the base of your partner’s head working down
toward her shoulders. Using your thumbs, rub the spine downward.
As you come back up, remove your thumbs, running your fingers up
the side of her neck. Repeat as above.
- Shoulders: The bearer of all problems a person experiences.
Applying proper pressure to the shoulders can make your partner
feel relaxed and more comfortable for the rest of the massage.
- Arms: Now you must choose an arm and massage that arm, and only
that arm first. Starting from the shoulder run your hands down
the arm to the elbow and back. After massaging the upper arm,
proceed to the lower arm, stopping at her wrist. After the lower
arm, take her hand and massage the back of it and each individual
finger. After completely the entire arm, return to shoulder and
gently rub the entire arm from shoulder to hand. Now repeat the
same to the other arm.
- Back: This section is for the upper back, just above the dip in
the lower back. Starting with rubbing the spine, work outwards.
From the spine, rub your hands toward her arms, working downward
as you go.
- Lower Back: As above, working from the spine outward.
Concentrate on just above the tailbone. Most people experience
discomfort here, so please be careful and gentle. Remember, stay
away from her bottom, but you can massage her hips. (More hip
massage is covered when she turns over)
- Thighs: Now you want to break down the legs as we did for the
arms. Start with the thighs working not only the back of her leg,
but the sides. She may be ticklish, so if she says she is, don’t
dwell in that area. Nothing kills a good massage than a fit of
laughter.
- Calves: have you ever heard a woman not complaining how her
calves hurt? This is the perfect way to satisfy her without
sexual intercourse. The main area to concentrate here is the
lower leg, right above her ankles.
- Feet: Another sensitive area. If she is extremely ticklish, you
may want to bypass this area. Do the same here as you did for the
hands. Rubbing the inside of her foot, and then rubbing each
individual toe. After completing the toes, run your hands up her
leg to her bottom, avoiding her crotch please. Now repeat the
last three steps to her other leg.
Now we have completed the first stage of the massage. Your
partner should be very relaxed. This is where is it important
that you are able to lie beside her. Lay down, your face near
hers, but don’t speak unless she speaks to you. Run your
hand along her back in soft lingering motions. About this time,
she should have a smile on her face (Hopefully!)
About two minutes is quite satisfying, but you may go longer.
When you and your partner are ready, ask her to turn over onto
her back. When she is comfortable, put the sheet over her again,
covering her chest.
- Neck: This time you want to begin with her neck. Running your
hands from just behind her ears to her shoulders. She may raised
her neck to you, this is a normal reaction.
- Shoulders: As from behind, rub her shoulders from her neck to
her arms. Do not go any lower than her collarbone.
- Arms: Now you want to concentrate on a single arm again, this
time working the front of them. Again, another ticklish area is
the crook if the arm, where it bends. Repeat as above, dividing
the arm in three sections. Repeat for second arm.
- Chest: I know what you’re thinking, but no, this is not a
breast massage. Here you want to massage from below her
collarbone to her stomach, avoiding rubbing her breasts and
nipples. I know guys, it is tempting, but resist the urge.
- Stomach: Gentle touches to her stomach are very pleasing. Work
from the middle of her stomach toward the outside, rubbing her
sides as you do. Be sure here again, you avoid rubbing her pubic
mound.
- Hips: Her hips are in constant motion during the day, why not
give them a good rub down? Take both hands and massage one side,
kneading her sides gently. Then proceed to the other side.
- Thighs, Legs and Feet: As above, separate the legs into three
sections, working on each leg separately.
This finishes the second part of the massage. What there’s
more? Oh yes, one of the most important part of the massage.
Take your towel, washcloth, etc and dip it into the warm water.
Run the towel along your partner’s body, wiping the oil off
her body. Remember to refresh the towel often, as it may lose
most of its heat with the oil.
Now, if you have followed the steps properly, and taken your
time, your partner should be very relaxed and very satisfied. If
you performed very well, she may return the favor, or even
better, she will want to bed you immediately!
When asked "What
are you doing?" never reply with "Nothing", always
appear to be busy even if you are not. This will make you seem to
be much more interesting.
Never stay on the phone for a long period of time (unless a
serious relationship has already been established) or you will
appear to be a boring person because you have nothing better to
do.
Never act submissive because you want to be the "Nice Guy".
In the real world (outside of Hollywood) nice guys don't get the
girls, so stand up for yourself and don't get used. However,
don't become the "Jerk" either, the goal is to be
likable while also showing strength by always expressing yourself
and your opinions.
Never, and I mean never, say "I love you" first. If you
say these 3 words too early you can easily change a great
relationship into an uncomfortable one (for the both of you), and
possibly destroy it.
Always keep things happening in your existing relationship. Try
new things (not only sexually) and never become lazy by just
sitting around watching TV every night. If your girl becomes
bored with the relationship she will leave or cheat on you.
Remember "It's easier to steal someone else's girl than it
is to keep your own!"
Never act serious at the beggining of a new relationship. You may
begin to develop strong feelings early on, but you don't want to
scare your dream girl away by coming on too strong. Just try to
relax and have fun while allowing your relationship to blossom at
a steady (but slow) pace.
When going on a first date, never go to a club or movie because
you want to spend this time talking to her and using the player
skills you've learned, which can be limited once you go to these
places. Take her somewhere fun (during the daytime, such as
miniture golf, the beach, etc.). This will lighten the tention
and make both of you more comfortable.
Never attempt to have sex with her unless you know (for sure)
that it's yours for the taking. If you try and fail, chances are
she will be extremely uncomfortable around you the next time you
get together, and probably never return your calls or avoid you
completely.
Always change the amounts of attention you give her. For instance:
Give her your undivided attention for an extended period of time
one day, and appear to be too busy to even talk to her the next.
This will drive her crazy, and you will be on her mind the entire
day. She will be wondering if she said or did something wrong,
and she will become much more interested in you because she won't
be able to think about anything else.
Once you are in an established relationship for a relatively long
period of time say this to your girl: "You know, your
probably my best friend". She will most likely burst into
tears and will love you twice as much for saying it. *note* Make
sure you say this at the right time. For example, saying this
while shopping at the mall would be a bad idea, but saying it
late at night while your laying in bed would be on point like a
fax machine.
Never bring a woman to a really expensive restaurant for any of
the first few dates. You may think that you are impressing her,
but all you are really doing is adding to the tension.
Never... ever... borrow money from a woman. Even if she is a long
term girlfriend and you need it badly. Women want a man that can
support them in any situation. In a woman's mind "For rich
or for poor" actually means "You better get rich, and
if your poor I'm gone". If you borrow money she will be
thinking "Hows he going to support me when he can't even
take care of himself". Never let her know if your in
financial trouble.
Never become obsessed with a particular woman you've just met, no
matter how hot she is or how much she seems to like you. If you
think about her too much, you will begin building up tention in
your mind which can effect how you act the next time you see her,
and that is when you want to be on top of your game, not looking
like an idiot with nothing to say. JOIN FREE ADULT DATING
The key to having
great sex for a woman is discovering her orgasm and being able to
produce multiple orgasms in herself while having sex with her
partner...
There are many ways to do the mattress mambo, but which ways give
women the best chance to reach orgasm? Emily Dubberley, author of
the new video The Lovers' Guide to Sexual Positions, knows
exactly how to hit the right spots. Get the lowdown on the most
orgasmic positions for women.
Warning: these sexual positions could produce intense multiple
orgasms!
The CAT position
You're pretty much guaranteed an orgasm with the coital alignment
technique, or CAT position because it stimulates the G-spot and
clitoris and even better news - you could have a mutual orgasm!
The man rests his full weight on the woman then edges forward so
that his pelvis is directly over hers. The woman wraps her legs
around him, keeping them straight, then pressing up as he moves
backwards so that they're both rocking gently against each other.
As orgasm approaches, don't speed up - just keep gently rocking
so that the orgasm comes naturally rather than being 'chased'.
This is a truly incredible experience that will bring you and
your partner even closer and should result in amazing orgasms for
both of you.
This position is extra good if your man is prone to speedy sex,
as the CAT will make him take it nice 'n' slow. You could keep
going all night in this tantric-style position.
Big 'O' potential: The CAT results in a 50% higher rate of orgasm
for women. Plus simultaneous orgasm increases by 45%. Perfect for
a lazy Sunday morning special.
Girls on top
This position is often a girl's favourite because it puts the
power in your hands! If you're feeling adventurous, try the
'reverse CAT technique' where you lie flat on top and grind away.
Lube can make it even better, particularly if you drizzle it over
each other's chests so you can sensually slide against each other.
Leaning forward makes it better for clitoral stimulation, but
leaning back makes it better for G-spot and A-zone access. But be
careful not to bend his penis backwards - it hurts!
If you find yourself getting tired or achy, get him to carry some
of your weight by holding your round your waist or moving your
hips up and down for you. Another tip is to get him to gradually
sit up and wrap your legs around his back.
Big 'O' potential: The perfect position for combining orgasmic
sex with a leg workout. Perfect!
The Aaaah-spot
The Anterior Fornix zone, known as the A-Zone, is located between
a woman's G-spot and her cervix. Found by scientists
investigating vaginal dryness in 1996, try feeling it with your
fingers first to know where to aim. First of all, feel for the G-spot,
which is a spongy mass about a third of the way up. Carry on to
the cervix, which feels like a small, round indentation (be
careful - it can hurt if you press too hard against it) and then
move your fingers back until you're halfway between the two. When
you've found it, get him to tickle your A-Zone for great results!
Do the doggy
Doggy position or from behind is one of the favourite positions
for women as it gives plenty of scope for playing with your
clitoris during sex. For a more intense experience, try spreading
your legs really wide. Whether his penis is large or small,
spreading legs wider is great for a small guy to feel a lot
bigger. If he's larger, closed legs will make it more comfortable
for you and stimulate the end of his penis.
Best tip for oral sex
The T-shaped position is best for oral sex. The woman lies flat
on her back and the man approaches the clit from the side. Not
only does it give him more control and room for tongue or toy
action, it's ideal for women who have a very sensitive clitoris
as it is easier to avoid the tip and go for the clitoral hood
instead. The man's head can rest on the pubic mound giving
additional stimulation.
Size matters
If he's small, then the best position is with you in missionary
style with your legs up in the air. The man stands up to
penetrate. He may have to manoeuvre your body into the right
position. This way you get maximum penetration. Alternatively, if
he's big try side by side, facing each other with one of your
legs in between his legs. This position is made extra sexy as
you're face to face for kissing and caressing each other.
Take control
Touching yourself when you're making love is a great way to boost
your chances of orgasm. Don't feel embarrassed - a man loves to
watch his partner play with herself. It's a great compliment too;
you're showing your partner that you're relaxed and comfortable
with him. If you're too shy to try just yet, place a pillow
underneath your pelvic region when you make love. As well as
changing the angle (be careful if he's big as it generally
deepens penetration), you can rub your clitoris against the
pillow for additional stimulation. And if you're feeling extra
brave, use a toy on yourself -and even on him - he'll love it! FREE ADULT DATING FOR GIRLS
The art of body
language is worthy of it's own website, and we will only be able
to scratch the surface in this area. However, it is only
necessary for a player to have a basic understanding of body
language in order to see results.
Body language consists of two basic types of gestures: open
gestures and closed gestures. Open gestures are displayed when
the woman is interested in or attracted to the person presented
to her, while closed gestures are displayed when she is not.
Becoming a master of body language is the ability to read these
signs and use them to your advantage. You must understand that
many things can effect a persons body language. For example, if a
woman is having a bad day, she may display closed gestures while
she is actually attracted to you. Also keep in mind that many shy
people automatically but up a barrier between you and them by
displaying closed gestures, and our ability to break down these
barriers by changing these closed gestures into open gestures is
what separates us players from the rest.
Now you know what body language is, and that everyone has the
ability to effect and change someone else's body language from
negative to positive by simply warming up to them (macking). It's
time to learn what these gestures are so you can identify and use
them to your advantage...
The Open Gestures...
You give me butterflies! - Once you make eye contact with a
woman, watch her for a few seconds after she looks away. If she
does something that implies that she has become nervous due to
you making eye contact, this means that she is interested in or
attracted to you. For instance, she will play with her hair,
adjust her clothing or jewelry, or fiddle with something in her
hands.
"read" her palms - She will expose her wrists and palms
of her hands only to people she is interested in. This is a
subconscious display of being submissive to you, in which her
body is saying "If you want me, you can have me".
Locked on target - Her shoulder orientation is one of the most
obvious signs of attraction. Her upper body will be facing you if
she is interested, in essence, she points her shoulders at what
she wants.
The lean - Leaning foward is also an easy sign to pick up. If her
shoulders point at you and she is leaning towards you, then you
can put your mind at ease, it's yours for the taking.
You coming in or what? - When her legs or feet are widened this
means she is very comfortable with her surroundings and with you.
Eyes are not just decoration - Her pupils will dialate (get
bigger) while looking at a person she likes, and will get smaller
while looking at a person she does not. Keep in mind that
lighting can greatly effect this. For instance, if you are
outside when the sun is present, her pupils may appear to be very
small no matter how much she likes you, and vice versa. The best
method to use for testing this is when you can view the change in
her pupils when looking at you and then at someone else.
Say "cheese" - This is a no-brainer. If she smiles at
you when you make eye contact, get over there and talk to her.
When did I become funny? - One of the best signs you can hope for
is when she will laugh at just about every slick thing you try to
say. You may begin to think that you might actually be pretty
funny, but your wrong, she just likes you alot, and that's even
better!
As good as gold - If she touches you multiple times while she is
talking, for instance, tapping you on the forearm when trying to
make a point, remember to tell her what you like for breakfast so
she knows what to cook in the morning.
You must do your duty - She will make eye contact with you and
hold it for a longer than usual period of time, almost
uncomfortably long. Before looking away, remember to smile at her.
This will let her know that you are interested and are a nice guy.
Following this, you may also notice her glance at you
occasionally. After the second or third look it should become
obvious to you that she wants you to talk to her, so it is your
duty as a player to give her what she wants :)
The flip - If you notice a woman flip her hair and immediately
afterward glaces your way, she is showing her interest in you and
trying to get your attention focused on her by catching your eye.
The Closed Gestures...
It's about time to "roll" on out - Whenever a woman
that you are macking on rolls her eyes it means that she is
embarrassed by your presence... and is attempting to display to
everyone else that she is not interested in you. If this happens
to you turn around and walk away, you have little (if any) chance
of getting with her.
X does not mark the spot - Crossing her arms is a tell-tale sign
that she is either agitated, nervous, uncomfortable, or just does
not like you. It's time to change your strategy, and quick.
The great wall of vagina - Crossing her legs is just as bad as
crossing her arms, but can be worse because once her legs are
crossed, she will most likely cross her arms also. However, if
her legs are crossed and pointing towards you (knee points toward
you), this means that she is nervous, but has interest in you. On
the other hand, if her knee points away, your in trouble.
Just... get away - The "lean back" is the most dreaded
sign in all of body language. If she is leaning away from you,
and it is very noticeable, my advice is to forget her and move on
to your next prospect. Only a very experienced player can warm up
to a woman after noticing this type of behavior, but if you think
you've got the skills, give it a try, you've got nothing to lose.
Body Language Tricks...
You copycat! - Here is a fun trick to use when you want to find
out if a woman is checking you out. Look at your watch, count to
3, then look at her. If she looks at her watch also, then she was
checking you out. It is a natural human reaction to mimic the
actions of someone that you are interested in. By looking at your
watch, you will spark her curiosity and she will be wondering
what you are waiting for, and with no other source to gather
information from, she will look at her own watch to try to at
least determine the time of your expected event.
Free Penis
Enlargement Exercise 1 - Warming Up your Penis
Possibly the most important aspect of penis enlargement is
warming up. A good warm up is essential to successful penis
enlargement!
This is probably the easiest and most relaxing, but at the same
time, extremely boring part of Penis Enlargement workouts.
Please note, a penis enlargement warm up, is essential. I can't
stress this enough!
Simply take a flannel or towel and soak it in warm water. Wring
out the water and then wrap it around your penis and testicles
and leave for about 5 minutes. Keep re-soaking the towel to keep
in nice an warm and make sure you dry off your penis properly
afterwards.
There you go, warm up complete. You can now continue with your
workout.
Free Penis Enlargement Exercise 2 - Kegels
Kegels Are The Most Important Exercise ANY Man Can Do! Learn How
To Contract Your PC Muscle And Get Hard As Rock Erections! Kegels
are possibly the most important exercise you will EVER do, every
man should start them today and do them for the rest of his life!
Every man has something called a PC muscle. This is the muscle
which he contracts when his penis moves up and down when erect.
Kegels exercises for men, basically pumps the PC muscle. A good
kegels workout every single day will help you to become so much
better in bed, live longer and sometimes even get rid of
premature ejaculation.
Most women at some time in their lives do a form of kegels often
called pelvic floor exercises. These help in child birth and can
help to enable both the man and the woman to have fantastic sex!
When you feel the grip of the vagina when you are having sex,
this is because the woman has strong muscles, and probably
because they have been doing kegels.
How do I find the PC muscle so I can do the Kegels workout?
You have muscles in between your ‘scrotum’ and ‘anus’.
To find them, you can imagine you are tensing up your ‘anus’
and then releasing it.
You should feel a strange sensation, which may be quite
uncomfortable at first.
This uncomfortable feeling is because the muscle is very weak
right now. You have to strengthen it, Kegels will do this.
So, I have found the PC Muscle so I can do kegels, tell me more
about it so I can perform my kegels for men workout!
The Kegels exercises are about as basic as it gets, but it is
also very important. By practicing the Kegels method that I am
going to show you, I was able to get stronger erections,
ejaculate or 'cum' across the room and have mind blowing,
multiple orgasms without going flaccid (soft) and you can too!
Kegels can be done anywhere - At work, in bed, at home, or at
college. Literally, you can do a kegels workout right now while
sat at your computer desk!
The Mini Kegels Workout Which Will Have You Making Your Lover
Think You Are A Different Man - Sex Will Become Explosive!
You strengthen your PC muscle by tensing it and releasing it
periodically. This must be done regularly throughout the day. For
example you could start by trying to tense up your PC muscle five
times in the morning, five times at Midday and then five times
before you go to bed. Keep this up and after a month or so, it
will be quite strong.
Some people find this exercise very hard to do as I did at first,
but luckily you don’t have to do it this way. Instead, you
can strengthen your PC muscle by by doing a kind of Kegels
workout every time you go to the toilet!
When you are in the toilet urinating, hold your urine before you
have finished and hold it a few seconds. Do this again and repeat
between 3 and 5 times every time you go to the toilet. This will
give the desired exercise effect of contracting your PC muscle
but is sometimes easier for people than doing a normal kegels
workout.
Free Penis Enlargement Exercise 3 - Jelqing Or Dry Milking
The origins of Jelqing appear to vary from one person's account
to the next. Most people would have you believe that Jelqing is
an ancient arabic penis enlargement technique.
My research has found otherwise.
Jelqing is actually a word which was created by one of the first
natural penis enlargement site authors on the Internet.
The Jelq, or dry Jelqing is a mild variation of the wet Jelq, or
wet Jelqing, which you will find out about next.
Dry Jelqing - you can do it, right now!
The Jelqing technique is a very effective technique which can be
done more often than most of the techniques due to the ease of
the exercise and no need to prepare or clean up afterwards.
Dry Milking could be seen as a variation of wet milking but
without it being so sexually stimulating or messy.
How to dry Jelq
Pull outward on your penis gently (without sliding your fingers
over your penis) until your penis becomes semi-erect. About a 60%
erection should be okay for this one - not flaccid, but not erect.
IMPORTANT - DO NOT JELQ FULLY ERECT!
Now your penis is slightly erect, change your pulling motion into
the 'ok' grip by placing your thumb and forefinger together. With
the 'ok' grip pull your penis outwards from the base (closest to
your body) and let the motion last about 2 seconds. Then repeat
as required.
After you have worked on the base of the penis, it might be worth
moving towards the middle of the shaft and repeating the exercise
there. You can squeeze more or pull more depending on what you
feel comfortable with. Most people report that with the jelqing
technique their hand soon becomes tired... Your hands and grip
will become stronger with this exercise! You'll be breaking hands
soon, not shaking them! :-)
For a variation of the dry Jelq you can try it in bed. Lie down
bending your knees and pull your penis towards each leg. Your
penis will probably want to become erect when doing this exercise
and so it may be a good idea to discourage this by either
stopping for a while when you feel it becoming erect, or cup your
hand around your glans (head) until it shrinks slightly.
Free Penis Enlargement Exercise 4 - Jelqing - wet milking
For the wet jelqing exercise you will need an extra tool other
than your hand and this guide. What is it you ask?
For wet Jelqing you will need a high quality wet lubricant - but
as soon as you have it, the results from jelqing will amaze you!
Wet lubricant is the single most important thing for your success
with penis enlargement exercises. A good quality wet lubricant
will enable you to do jeqling techniques for longer and avoid any
nasty friction burns or skin irritations.
Do NOT use soap or shampoo!!!
A good quality wet or sexual lubricant is essential!
If you are looking for an alternative substance to use in your
jelqing other than normal wet sexual lubricant, then you can use
Vaseline Intensive care or something similar.
How to Jelq and make wet jelqing techniques give you fantastic
gains!
I will keep the instructions as simple as possible but if you do
not understand any of it then please, don't do the exercise.
Well here goes...
Step 1
Make the "OK" sign with your fingers by touching your
forefinger and thumb tips together. Lubricate both your hands and
penis shaft with your wet lubricant.
Note, you should always do the jelqing exercise WITHOUT an
erection. A semi-erection is fine, but my research has proved
that if you Jelq with a full erection, it can cause vascular
damage and all sorts of other unwanted side effects.
If you start to get an erection then slightly squeeze your penis
head (glans) with your hand and this will discourage it, or
simply wait for it to subside.
Step 2
Squeeze your penis shaft as close to your scrotum as possible and
pull downward with your "OK" sign hand.
Step 3
Stop when you reach the glans (head), and repeat with the other
hand. Make each stroke last about three or four seconds
Step 4
Repeat step 2 and 3 alternating between hands and keep going for
as many repetitions as you wish (start with only a few and work
up to more as you get more experienced).
Remember, do this exercise regularly... This is the key to
enlargement, as with any form of exercise!
There you go, you have now mastered the art of jelqing. Make sure
you Jelq regularly as this should make up a substantial part of
your penis enlargement workout.
This Jelqing exercise alone, will increase your penis size
significantly over a period of time.
When a woman finds
a man who gives good head, (cunnilingus) she's found a treasure
she's not going to let go of too quickly. There is nothing that
makes a woman more unique than her pussy. They come in all
different sizes, colors and shapes; some are tucked inside and
some have thick luscious lips
One side of her clitoris is normally more sensitive than the
other. If she doesn't know which side - experiment. When a woman
becomes aroused, the clitoris becomes engorged. The more
engorged, the more it craves to be touched.
Take A Look
Be sure to wet your finger(s) before you touch her clit because
it doesn't have its own juices and it's extremely sensitive. Your
finger will stick to it if it's dry and that hurts. Whenever you
touch her pussy, make sure your finger is wet. You can lick it or
moisten it with juices from inside her. Before she becomes
aroused, her clit is too delicate to be handled.
Gently peeling apart the labia minora, her small lips, and look
at her inner lips, even lick them if you want to. With the tip of
your wet finger slide it upward until you reach her little pink
bud of flesh in the front. If you are in front of her, you can
find it where all the whorls and folds of skin come together at
the top of her vagina. The clitoris is about the size of the tip
of your little finger. This is the most erotically sensitive spot
in a woman's body. Its sole purpose is receiving pleasure.
Tease Her
Women love to be teased. The inner part of her thigh is her most
tender spot. Lick it, kiss it, make designs on it with the tip of
your tongue. Come close to her pussy, then float away. Make her
anticipate it. Now lick the crease where her leg joins her pussy.
Nuzzle your face into her bush. Brush your lips over her slit
without pressing down on it to further excite her.
When she’s bucking up and straining to get more of you
closer to her, put your lips right on top of her slit. Kiss her
gently, then harder. Now use your tongue to separate her pussy
lips and when she opens up, run your tongue up and down between
the layers of pussy flesh.
Tongue Fucking
Gently, spread her legs more with your hands. Tongue-fuck her.
This feels divine. It also teases the hell out of her because by
now she wants some attention given to her clit. Quickly push your
tongue in and out of her wet pussy, alternate between quick and
slow thrusts. Don’t forget to run your tongue up the full
length of her pussy lips just nipping at her clitoral bud. Never
use your teeth.
Clitoral Orgasm
See if her clit has become hard enough to peek out of its hood.
If so, lick it. If you can't see it, it might still be waiting
for you underneath. Bring your tongue up to the top of her slit
and feel for her clit. If you can't feel the tiny bud, you can
make it rise by licking the skin that covers it. Lick hard now
and press into her skin. Gently pull her pussy lips away and
flick your tongue quickly against her clit, hood covered or not.
Her legs should shudder. When you sense she's getting up there
toward orgasm, make your lips into an O and take the clit into
your mouth. Start to suck gently and watch her face for her
reaction. If she can handle it, begin to suck harder. If she’s
into it, suck even harder.
Go with her. Move with her as she lifts her pelvis into the air
with the tension of her rising orgasm. Don't fight her. Hang on,
and keep your hot mouth on her clit. Don't let go. That's what
she'll be saying too:"Don't stop. Don't ever stop!"
There's a reason for that, most men stop too soon.
Finger Fucking & Orgasm
You can finger-fuck her while she's enjoying your clit-licking
talents. Before, during or after, she'll like it all. In addition
to the erogenous zones surrounding her clit, a woman has another
extremely sensitive area at the roof of her vagina. This is what
you rub up against when you're fucking her. The infamous G-Spot.
Your fingers will have to do the fucking. Take two fingers. One
is too skinny and three is too wide and can't get deep enough
into her pussy. Make sure they're wet. Slide them inside, slowly
at first, then a little faster. Fuck her with rhythm. Speed up
when she does. Listen to her breathing. She'll let you know what
to do. If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the
same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would
with your cock alone. You can count on it that she's getting high
on this.
When she starts to have an orgasm don't let go of that clit. Hang
in there. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm,
press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your
lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt.
If your fingers are inside, move them a little too, gently
though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your
cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way. A woman
can stay excited for a full hour after she's had an orgasm.
Don't leave her alone just yet. Talk to her, stroke her body,
caress her breasts and keep making love to her quietly until
she's come all the way down. Free Horny Girls
The secret of
incredible sex is to start again from scratch. If your sex life is
stuck in a rut, break your sexual fatigue by throwing out all your
preconceptions, banishing bad bedroom habits and learning how to make
love again. Talk about it, play with it, experiment with sex to find
out what you now like, as opposed to what made you tick when you first
got together. And keep the passion alive by adding in new excitements
and sexual surprises that may seem a bit wild but will get your juices
flowing.
Find fulfilling foreplay
First try this Tantric sex tip for getting physically and emotionally
in synchrony. Sit opposite each other, very close, as if you were about
to kiss. As one of you breathes out, the other breathes in, so you
inhale each other's breath.
Then swap dirty dreams. Ask him to say out loud a sentence of his
sexual fantasy and then you say the next sentence. Move the story on
one sentence at a time - and as you get to the physical bits, act out
what you're describing.
Now take it in turns to blindfold each other for, perhaps, fifteen
minutes. During that time, the one who isn't blindfolded surprises the
other, perhaps by feeding them, touching them, licking them. No nasty
shocks though - make it all gentle and loving.
Cuddled up close, then masturbate in front of each other. This'll not
only be a turn on - it'll also teach both of you about what you really
like. If you feel shy, do it in the dark, with your hand over his as he
plays, or his over yours as you do. This way reduces potential
embarrassment, but you still learn about each other.
Tempt with tongue work
Start with a tongue bath, licking each other all over, before you get
down and dirty. This will let you rediscover each other's erogenous
zones - they may be different than you think. (But keep a glass of
water handy, as your mouth can get very dry with this one.)
Give each other 'guided' oral sex, with one of you saying what you
want, minute-by-minute, while the other obliges. If you can't find the
words, let the 'doer' experiment, while the 'being done to' murmurs
numbers from one to ten to show just how good it is - the aim for the
doer is to keep the numbers as high as possible.
Experiment with different flavours, temperatures and textures. Cold
water, warm coffee, ice cream, your favourite tipple. But beware of
getting too extreme; the guideline is that if it's even slightly
uncomfortable in your mouth, it'll be painful on your partner's
genitals.
For added thrills, mix oral and anal. While you're licking each other,
slide a clean finger slowly up behind. Check with your partner first;
this is not something to do unexpectedly.
Play with positions
Teach him what you like. Work out your own three favourite positions,
then tell him that tonight you're in charge. Guide him from one
position to the other, planning your moves ahead of time - he can then
lie back and enjoy himself!
Ring the changes. Choose your favourite position, start that way, then
see where you can go with it. What happens if you reverse roles so that
you rather than he are on top? What happens if you try that position
standing, sitting or lying? Experiment and learn!
Start counting. Add a whole new dimension by asking your man not simply
to thrust away, but to alternate slow and fast, deep and shallow. So
try these patterns: five shallow thrusts followed by one medium thrust,
five medium followed by one deep - nine shallow followed by one deep.
Widen your repertoire. Eastern eroticism has some lovely suggestions
that aren't usually included in most Western sex manuals; Anne Hooper's
Pocket Kama Sutra is a good place to start, and the book is small
enough to keep under your pillow.
Optimise your orgasms
Mix and match. Most women don't come through intercourse alone, so
during lovemaking, get him - or you - to touch your clitoris too. Try
out different rates and rhythms to find out what really works for you.
If you find orgasm tricky, you're not alone. So read Satisfaction by
Kim Cattrall and Mark Levinson for great tips on how to learn the skill
- and get your man to learn it too.
Go for more than one. Many women find that the second orgasm is easier
than the first. So bring yourself off for your initial climax, then lie
back and relax while he does some work.
Hang back. Get him to push you to the 'plateau' phase where you are
almost ready to come and then stop. Two or three such waits will make
the climax, when it comes, almost unbearably good.
Make it great for your man
Discover his buttons. Ask him what one unexpected spot drives him wild
- his nipples, the small of his back, behind his ears - and then attack
that mercilessly!
Give him a quickie. While most men like long slow lovemaking, the sheer
excitement (and the fact of not having to hold back) makes a quickie a
lovely treat. So dress for ease of entry, choose a time and place that
makes for fast sex and jump on him.
Find his frenulum - that little bit of skin just below the head of the
penis, on the 'seam side'. This is his most sensitive part, so give it
lots of attention...pressing with your fingers during a hand job,
flicking it when you give a tongue job.
Make him wait. Like you, he can be driven wild by a little suspense. So
when you're using your hands or mouth, get him really going, then pause
between strokes for just a few heartbeats - he'll end up begging for it. FREE ADULT DATING FOR GIRLS
